Terrible Maid of Honor Drops Out of Friend's Wedding When Brother Reveals His Secret Love

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Apr 23, 2022 2:00 PM EDT

This Maid of Honor decided to drop out of her best friend's wedding at the last minute after the Maid of Honor's brother revealed that he had been secretly in love with her friend for years. Her friend and her brother had had a fling six years prior, just before her friend had met her now-fiancé. The brother never got over being dumped by the friend and his revelation has caused his sister to betray her friend of twelve years.

This thread was posted to r/AITA (Am I the A--Hole) by the Maid of Honor who has dropped out of the wedding. She has posted the thread to gauge from readers whether or not she was in the wrong for dropping out of her friend's wedding on her brother's wishes. 

Commenters have overwhelmingly voiced their distaste for her actions, calling her out for betraying her friend after allowing herself to be manipulated by her jealous brother.

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    Font - Posted by u/OstrichRepulsive3029 17 hours ago AITA for dropping out of my MOH role just few weeks before the wedding? My (25f) best friend of 12 years (25f) is getting married in 3 weeks. I was supposed to be her MOH but I dropped out of the role last week and before you judge me let me explain why. My best friend has been with her fiancé since they were both 19. A little before she got with her fiancé she had a short fling with my brother (29m). It wasn't a serious relationship and befor
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    Font - So few days before I dropped out of my MOH role my brother revealed to me about how he had admitted he's in love with my best friend back then. He says he's always been bitter about how she dropped him to get with her current fiancé and how she was very mean when she rejected him. When he admitted his feelings to her she basically told him that they're nothing more than just a fling and there's not going to be anything more between them. My brother told me she was very mean to him and tol
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    Font - So I dropped out. I told my bff the exact reason why and she was furious. She said my brother is stuck on the past and the only reason she didn't tell me was because she didn't want to put me in an awkward position since it's my brother. She said my brother and I are ridiculous for holding something that happened 6 years ago against her and how I'm basically an AH for dropping out over something so petty and minor just few weeks from the most important moment of hers. I don't think it was
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    Font - doggirlie · 16 hr. ago Partassipant [1] YTA (and so is your brother). So you're ending your 12year relationship with your best friend solely because she didn't have the same feelings for your brother as he had for her 6 years ago? He could have told you this at any time, but right before the wedding so she has to sweat about it? Dropping out doesn't make you a good sister. It does make you a bad friend. 22.5k Share
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    Font - Electrical-Date-3951 · 15 hr. ago A Agreed. What did the brother hope to accomplish by revealing this now? The BFF is getting married. As harsh as it sounds, him being in love with her is a personal problem. (And, let's be honest - these types of infatuations are rarely love, but lust and/or loving the idea of the other person.) This scenario also gave me gross vibes. OP and the her friend would have been besties since they were 13. The brother 17. If the brother got with the BFF right at
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    Organism - fallen_star_2319 · 15 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [26] I wonder if he thought that by telling OP this now, she would ruin the wedding and he might have a chance 3.4k Share
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    Font - 19louie82 · 17 hr. ago YTA. This timing is hugely manipulative of your brother and I'm not surprised she dumped him if that's a true reflection of his character. It sounds to me like she was upfront and honest with him about the exact nature of their relationship, as she was with you, and he didn't like that boundary. I always worry about men who try to burn other people because they didn't like being told they can't have something. Dropping out now, for this reason, is horrible and mean.
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    Font - DifficultBrilliant86 · 17 hr. ago 2 Partassipant [2] YTA. Your friend was just being honest nothing she said was mean. Your brother needs to get over it and you are a bad friend. 6.7k Share
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    Font - tonysvanstrom · 17 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [29] YTA for letting your brother manipulate you into betraying your bff simply because he's jealous of her now being completely outside of his reach/hopes. Your brother played you because he's still stuck on your bff. 3.0k Share
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    Font - PeggyHW · 16 hr. ago Pooperintendant [62] YTA. It sounds like he's bitter because she was honest about different expectations. He wanted romance long term. She wanted fling. He got pissy about that... .. and holds a grudge for 6 years and then uses you to get revenge. 4 2.4k Share
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